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As children grow up, they become more aware of their bodies. They learn to recognize what distinguishes their sex and acquire knowledge about their sexual organs. To prevent our children from believing the wrong things about sexual anatomy and acquiring sex education from incorrect sources, it's necessary that we provide it to them on our own. For this, it is really important that we have honest, clear, and direct conversations with our children about sex and make them aware of all aspects related to it so they don't subscribe to wrong notions about it. While growing up, children are always curious about where babies come from so instead of feeding them comfortable myths, we should explain to them what the sexual intercourse between a man and a woman entails. While such conversations might be difficult to initiate, as adults it's our responsibility to ensure that our kids receive the right information about sex and related matters at the right time. The first step to providing the right information is enquiring about what the child already knows. Through their response, we can ascertain how much they already know and correct their misconceptions if they have any. Further, we need to teach our children about sexual anatomy and how it is different in both men and women. We need to be careful about the words we choose and not describe the child's sexual body parts with nicknames as it might unnecessarily confuse them.
While boys approaching the age of adolescence need to be educated on what an erection is, young girls need to be taught about menstruation in advance to keep them prepared. We need to have frank and open conversations with our children on these matters and address all the queries they might have regarding the same. We should never laugh or ridicule the child's doubts on sexual matters as this might dissuade them from asking their questions and make them feel embarrassed. In addition to this, we also need to ensure that we make our children aware of the existence of same-sex couples and gay sex. By briefing them about non-hetero relationships, we can ensure that our children become aware, learn to respect and be inclusive of LGBTQ members.
While sex education is vital for clearing a child's doubts related to sex and child-making, it also needs to encompass the knowledge of good touch and bad touch. During their initial years, children have very little knowledge about what they need to protect and from whom. To keep them on guard, we need to educate our children about the parts of their bodies that they shouldn't allow strangers to touch. Moreover, our children should have enough confidence in us to reach out if ever someone touches them inappropriately. By being open about good touch and bad touch, we can prevent our children from blaming themselves and remaining quiet if ever something unfortunate happens.
Conversations surrounding sex might seem difficult to initiate but they are vastly important. If we remain quiet on this topic, our children will become more susceptible to believing the wrong kind of information regarding sex. This is why it’s instrumental that we provide sex education to our children from an early age and ensure that they don’t adopt wrong notions about it from unreliable sources.
Zainab Wahab is pursuing a Bachelor's degree in English Literature from Jamia Millia Islamia. She is an aspiring poet and an avid reader. Any views expressed are personal.